Learning About Love

Rock Love Heart

Love heart shaped rock on a rock platform at the beach – Love is all around us if we open our hearts to learning.

I believe that learning about real love and coming to truly know ourself is imperative for any positive changes to take place in our lives and in the world.

Below are some of the questions I desire to learn more about from God, and the playground/universe God has created for us to learn about ourselves, about love, and about God if we choose to.

I will add more questions as they arise. * Updated 15-11-14, to include more topics for learning.

Questions:

* What does real love feel like?
* What does real love look like?
* How does real love act?

Other areas I desire to learn more about:

* Learning about God’s Love
* Learning about God’s Laws
* Learning about God’s Personality & Qualities
* Learning about humility
* Learning about my soul and who God created me to be
* Strengthening my will to love – putting love into action
* How to really love and care for myself
* Changing my daily life to one that supports my growth in love and my love for others
* Loving relationships – removing addictions in a relationship
* Becoming a loving healthy being without being co-dependent on others
* Repentance and forgiveness
* Loving passions, desires and being creative
* Using my will and putting into practise being truthful and desiring truth always
* Trust and faith
* How love changes the condition of our world – Learning how real love removes suffering in the world

I also love learning from two amazing teachers – AJ and Mary – that share a wealth of information about God, love, the human soul, and God’s Universe. I am truly grateful for these truths that are so freely shared and I can put these teachings into practice to be able to learn, discover and experience these truths for myself.

I also love learning from God when my heart is open to feeling God communicating to me. My desire is to one day be able to feel God communicating to me always and to always feel God’s Love; for this to happen I need to have a desire to sincerely want to know the truth about my true soul condition, and then have a sincere desire to want to heal my soul, I also need to have a strong will to grow and prayer to receive God’s Love. I am learning that the worlds definition of love is different to God’s definition of Love, and since my desire is to grow my soul in Love, I feel it’s important to educate myself about what real love is.

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Some helpful information below about Understanding Self from the Divine Truth Website.

Understanding Self – Introduction

Observations Regarding Stagnation:

Those who are stagnant do not:
… really understand themselves
… really understand or even want to know God
… really want to come face to face with the truth about themselves

Those who are stagnant do:
… want to ignore their own true condition
… want to ignore God
… want to ignore feeling and experiencing their own painful emotions
… want to ignore the damage they do to others by their own choices
… want to ignore what God created them to be

Importance of Understanding Self & how you were made
Without understanding yourself you cannot grow and change
Without understanding how you were made you cannot engage the real process of growth         We must understand we are a soul, and how that soul functions

Introduction To The Three Selves

The ‘three selves’ are:
The undamaged self God created
The damaged or hurt self that your environment and you created
The façade self your environment and you created to avoid the other two selves

We are talking about the ‘three selves’ from an emotional, soul based perspective
It is a single self, fragmented by the denial of the real, denial of the hurt, and the preferred creation of the façade

What Is My Real Self?

My real self:
The personality of my real self is created by God
The expression of my real self is controlled by myself alone
The development of my real self is controlled by myself
My real self has the ability to grow and change
At my conception my real self has not been hurt, and did not play facades
We can call my real self “God’s Child”

My real emotional self:
Is sensitive, aware, perceptive and insightful
Is expressive, animated, communicative, open and unrestrained
Is honest, truthful, sincere, frank, candid, blunt and transparent
Is adventurous, courageous, daring, bold, creative, brave and audacious
Is curious, inquisitive, questioning, probing, searching and enquiring
Is emotional, feeling and sensing
Can develop to become wise, intelligent, clever, gifted and logical
Can develop to become sensible, practical, responsible, accountable, dependable and rational
Can develop to become loving, caring, kind, gentle, considerate and compassionate

My real self lacks development for the following main reasons:
Others created damage or hurt to my real self at a very young age (conception onwards)
Others attempted to force me into a façade to suit them at a young age which further damaged my real self (conception onwards)
I continued to damage and hurt myself through my choices as I used my will
I continued to develop the façade to meet my own or others expectations as I used my own will
Consequently, my real self remains undeveloped, untrained, and remains potential only
We can call my real self my “Unknown Potential Self” to help us identify

What Is My Hurt Self?

My hurt self is:
Created by other people harming me (from conception onwards)
It is injured further by my harming myself or others through my choices                                         Is stagnant at the age the damage or harm was created
Contains most my own inner causal emotional pain and suffering
We can call my hurt self my “Hurt Child” to help us identify

My hurt emotional self:
Is pained, hurt, aggrieved, wounded, injured, upset, and distressed
Is timid, nervous, shy, fearful, hesitant, apprehensive, cautious and concerned
Is fragmented, disjointed, uneven, suppressed, dormant, undeveloped, concealed, embryonic   Is humiliated, shamed, embarrassed, disgraced, unfavoured, and self-conscious
Is rejected, discarded, unwanted, and unneeded by others
Is angry, rebellious, self-absorbed, self-centred, and lacks awareness of surroundings

My hurt self (hurt child) lacks development for the following main reasons:
Each hurt is ‘frozen’ at the age the hurt occurred no matter who caused the hurt
Each hurt, while it remains, prevents God’s Truth from entering on the same subject
Each hurt, while it remains, prevents my ability to feel and experience love as an emotion     Each hurt, while it remains, defines my understanding of truth and love
Each hurt is locked up inside, & cannot be released without sincere emotional expression
Unless the hurt self is felt emotionally, the hurt self cannot grow emotionally
Consequently, my hurt self remains young, childish, immature, contained & restricted

What Is My Façade Self?

My façade self is:
Is created in childhood by other people wanting me to be different to my real self (conception onwards)
Is further developed by my purposeful desire to ignore my real and hurt selves
Is often very ‘adult’ in nature, since adults or myself as an adult developed the façade
Contains all of my mechanisms for coping, managing and controlling my life
Has been formulated so that others firstly, and then I could avoid feeling pain or my real self
We can call my façade self my “Adult Façade” to help us identify

My façade emotional self:
Loves addiction, compulsion, obsession, urges, cravings, fixation and mania
Loves bullying, force, harassment, oppression, repression, coercion and manipulation           Loves abuse, cruelty, nastiness, meanness, brutality, viciousness and unkindness
Loves resistance, conflict, confrontation, disagreement, quarrel and squabbling
Loves arrogance, condescension, superiority, conceit, disdain, pride and egotism
Is insensitive, unaware, lacks perception or insight
Is un-expressive or false in its expression, pretending and made up
Is unanimated or false in its animation, lethargic or forced vibrancy
Is closed, reserved, controlled, forced, guarded and untrusting
Is dishonest, untruthful, insincere, lacks frankness, opaque and is not candid
Is prying, interfering, snooping, nosy, meddling, intrusive, invasive and pushy
Is unemotional or falsely emotional, unfeeling, unwise, dumb, stupid, and illogical
Is fixed, immovable, predetermined and rigid
Is apathetic, lazy, disinterested, uninvolved, bored and unconcerned
Is unwise, imprudent, thoughtless, irrational, reckless, irresponsible and careless                           Is selfish, self-absorbed, self-centred, narcissistic and vain

My façade self lacks development for the following main reasons:
The façade is a figment of our or someone else’s creation and imagination
The façade is denying the real emotions of the real and hurt selves
The façade is managing or controlling the direction of growth & awareness
The façade has no interest in true soul based progression of the real or hurt self
The façade is an imitation adult, a baby or a fiction in adults clothing

Progression

To progress towards God and ourselves we must engage the following sequence:
Remove the façade self
Educate, feel and experience the hurt self
Develop, educate, feel, and experience the real self’s qualities, attributes and personality
Develop a desire in the real self to receive God’s Love and Truth
Develop a desire in the real self to be loving and truthful with others

The most difficult process is to remove the façade self because:
The façade self has the most resistance to love and truth
The façade self wants to retain itself
The façade self wishes to avoid all painful emotion
The façade self is angry and resentful towards God

Conclusion

We must understand ourselves to progress
This is a part of our using our will to educate ourselves about love
This requires a personal effort on our own behalf

We must experience the emotions associated with each part of ourselves
The façade self
The hurt self
And the real self

What a beautiful artist God is

What a beautiful artist God is – a small part of the loving playground God has created for us learn & discover.